Don't Trump yourself
From a conversation a few months ago…
“When I was a kid, we didn’t play computer games and iPads all day – we were outside from sunset to sundown. The kids these days spend all day inside – no wonder they are overweight”, said the middle-aged man at the gym, as he pondered the challenges facing society.
“But you didn’t have computer games or iPads back then. If you did, surely you would have been using them?” - I say.
“No, our parents wouldn’t have let us,”
I left it at that, only later realising the irony that he would have been the parent letting this generation use the computer games and iPad!
Anyway, there are two things to think about here:
a) he definitely would have used them; and
b) it was easier to be active when entertainment often required activity.
But instead of yearning for the ‘good old days’ or ‘it would have been easier when…’ you have to focus on what you can do now.
Everything thinks the same thing, and I work with people ranging from the early twenties to late fifties!
People in their fifties wish they had of done more in their forties, when they didn’t have these nagging injuries.
People in their forties wish they had of done more in their thirties, when they were playing with the kids.
People in their thirties wish they had of done more in their twenties, when they had spare time and disposable income.
People in their twenties wish they had of one more in their teens, instead of sitting around playing video games and iPad all day!
Everyone thinks right now is hard, and it was easier before.
But here’s another perspective: it will never get easier to start than right now.
Every day you gain a bit more weight, it gets harder.
Every day the joints wear a little bit more, it gets harder.
Every day you put off starting, it gets harder.
It might have been ideal ten years ago, but that’s irrelevant now.
This belief that the past was better is legit – Donald Trump won the election with his slogan ‘make America great again’, and appealing to everyone to go back to the good old days.
But despite all it’s flaws, surely America is a better place to live right now than thirty years ago?
But when we are not happy with something now, we yearn for the good times of the past – which we pretty up by our own confirmation bias.
So instead of focusing on the past or regretting missed opportunities, just focus on being greater, now.