“Will you be telling your friends or family?”

Good morning.

This question has been on the list all year, so it’s got a bit more data behind it than the initial two I have shared.

Everyone tells their partner, which makes sense - they will inevitably notice if you start training more or eating differently, plus it’s good to have them on board for moral support.

Where it gets interesting is sharing the goal with friends.

It’s about 50-50 when it comes to sharing body recomposition goals with close friends.

Many people don’t want to share their body recomposition goals with others until they have achieved it!

It’s an important consideration for coaching clients who don’t intend to share with friends because you need to think ahead to situations where they might be sharing a meal.

If I know that someone doesn’t want to share their goals with friends or colleagues, then I wouldn’t expect them to order anything drastically different when they are eating out with those people, because the last thing they want to do is draw attention to their food intake.

A classic example would be a guy who is having a work lunch where everyone is ordering schnitzel and burgers. He knows the grilled chicken salad will bring unwanted attention, but he also wants to stick to the plan. 

So I need to be proactive and tell him to order as usual, and that we can manage the diet more strictly elsewhere.

A reluctance to share can come down to a couple of things:

  • Not wanting to acknowledge there is an issue
  • If you fail, these people won’t know you tried


There’s no right or wrong way to do it. Some people like to share the goals and find it helps with accountability, others find it brings pressure.

But it’s another important piece of information about the client’s mindset and personalised approach to their strategy.

Tom Fitzgerald