Treat yourself like someone you are responsible for helping

Good morning.

This comes from Jordan Peterson’s book, 12 Rules for Life.

We tell others to get an annual medical check-up, even if we don’t do it ourselves.

Part of it is that we enjoy the praise that comes from helping others, which we don't get when we do things for ourselves.

Maybe we also fear being seen as selfish for doing something for us, not that going for a check-up is a good example of that.

We know it's important to look after ourselves, even if our role is to look after others.

The obvious example to give is the air mask on a plane - put yours on before you help someone else - because if you don’t, you can’t.

But that makes sense with a short time-frame, not so much when things begin to spread out.

What I like about this principle is that it forces people to detach.

If you recommend an annual medical check-up for a friend, you obviously see value in the check-up.

So why don’t you do it?

Too busy?

We all know that it can fit in if it’s a priority.

We all have a certain inertia about us; a desire not to change or do.

It’s irrational when we detach and think about it, but not many people do that.

Instead, we get caught up the day-to-day and become great advisors, but poor doers.

Ironically, the person who receives the advice probably won't even follow through, so it's all a facade.

You might tell me to get your check-up and be genuinely interested in my health.

But then I hear that and decide it’s not a priority, then think you are being uppity for making the recommendation in the first place.

It’s terrifically illogical all around.

The fact remains: getting the health check-up would be a good decision for both of us, we just created this crazy narrative around it.

Tom Fitzgerald